Thursday, October 6, 2011

I am breaking down to pieces....Please help?

Friends i m in a very strange situation..... I am 22, male and live somewhere in Asia. I run a good business with my father and have some friends. I have a very strong heart but something STUPID happened which changed everything. One night as i was changing channels, i came across an anime named welcome to the nhk. It seemed interesting so i kept watching it everyday.......... But when it reached the last three episodes , a mountain fell on me..... let me tell you i have watched and read many sad and depressing stories but there is something in that story which is making me very sad and depressed. its very unlike me......... Misakee character especially , her situation and history has left a very sad burden on my heart....... i dont know what to do........ DAMIT WHY I M DEPRESSED BY THESE FICTIONAL, NON EXISTING, WORTHLESS PEOPLE.... It has been four days now, i am distracted at work and metal condition is awful. This had never happened before. So please i ask any friend who been through it to help me.... Thank you .......|||There is nothing wrong with you for feeling that way. You obviously seem like a empathetic person like me. I went through the same thing when michael jackson died i felt so bad for his family and children it made me depressed for awhile and i thought something was wrong with me. I promise you will get through it and you wont feel this way for forever. Maybe it relates to something that once happened in your life? or reminds you of something in your past? you will eventually stop thinking about it. It will just take patience and time. It doesnt matter if it isnt real it still has a big empact on you somehow...|||yourwelcome :)

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Much needed advice on adult with disfunctional family?

It would take an several pages to explain how my family is and the disfunction that has existed since day one. I will try and as briefly as possible explain the situation. This is just one in many issues, however this time I sincerley need advice due to that this is getting to much for me to be involved in at all, do I need to cut all ties?





Here is the situation:


disfunctional family/no physical abuse growing up, basically mental abuse, and exposed to adult situations that I should of never been part of.





Childhood isses as to where my own mother let a family member torment my in a excessivly abusive verbal manner. She never put a stop to it in fact made excuses for my brother who absolutley made my life pretty much misreable for years. She ALLOWED this to happen to me growing up. (I do not mean normal kid teasing it was way beyond that about health issues I had, life threatening issus)





This same brother is now living with my mother, after my father died he moved in her home. He does not work. He has a drug habit that my mother gives him money for, she buys all his nessicities. He has never held a steady job.





This brother of mine is into some very wierd things in my opinion and opinion of every family member that I have. My mother defends and condones and contributes to his behavior.. this is a 36 year old man.





The issue at this point is that he has done somthing so morally wrong that I am even too embarresed to write about it, basically he has befriended a murderer that killed a little girl years back. He corresponds though mail with this person.





My issue is that I am apalled by this. I am appalled that my own mother would defend him and tell me that it is just letters, and that the convicted fellon of murder is not a bad person, was just mixxed up. I do not see it that way.. the person took a little girls life.. how can my mother as a mother and grandmother herself accept that he is carring on with these type of people.





I think it is so totally wrong for a mother ( my mother ) to condone this, she knows how totally upset our entire family was when this murder occured years back.





How can I allow myself to be a part of her life when she is enabeling, contributing to and allowing his sick behavior under her own roof. I do not know with a clear consious if I can go against my beliefs and associate with a mother who sees nothing wrong with his behavior. (also this person, my brother has made threats to her, to me, my sister, my kids)





My moms only excuse is %26quot; she doesnt know how to make him move out of her home... ( that seems pretty easy to me... what about packing his clothes and putting them outside and changing the locks)


never the less she has willed all her money and home to him after her death....





Do you agree that I should just cut ties with her due to I can not with a clear consious associate with someone who condones his behavior?





In addition my mother is the number one trouble maker in family, she talks really bad about me to others and talks horrible about other family to me.. she is continually keeping each family member mad at each other.. she in fact says horrible things about even the kids in the family. This woman (my mother ) is a gossip to each and everyone she knows. I love my mother but I can not put myself and my children in this damaging behavior anymore.





Please give me some good solid advice, this is effecting my panic attacks that I have had for years due to childhood trauma from my family.





Am I wrong for just cutting all ties? Please help.|||CUT THE TIES WITH YOUR FAMILY!!!!! Your mother is never going to stop enabling her son. She is mentally unstable, and so is your brother. Trust me, you are better off without poisonous people like that.





You should also consider therapy for the years of abuse you went through. I think it would really help you.|||you should of cut ties years ago.|||I don%26#039;t believe you%26#039;re wrong for cutting the ties here, I most definitely would.|||If one of my siblings was doing that, I would call the police, my sister is special-ed, so she wouldn%26#039;t do that. But call the police, I wouldn%26#039;t care if anyone got mad at me, I would also talk to my mother upfront and tell her how I felt about this situation.

Dealing with babymama drama?

Ive been with this guy for six years off and on due to babymama drama and i really love him but the drama has gotten worse and worse every year with her calling my phone and harassing me and leaving evil messages, i have to keep changing my number and that%26#039;s embarassing. When he is around her he ignores my phone calls like i dont exist saying it is disrespectful to answer the phone around her. Ive done a lot for this guy and been their for him when he was down and dont feel he is treating me like i deserve. It makes me feel like i dont mean nothing to him everytime he gets around her to help her out in situations. And he just wont really come out and tell her look i luv my girl and i dont want you disrespecting her because i help you out when you dont have anyone and im their for my child whenever you call.|||leave him|||Get the book...........%26quot;Ten Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up their Lives%26quot;





Read it.


Own it.


Embrace it.


Keep your legs closed and don%26#039;t have his kid whatever you do.|||The Days of our Ghetto. You bees disrespe-in me, I bees dis respe-in you- I bet if you ask these people what respect means, they wouldn%26#039;t have a clue. And it%26#039;s baby%26#039;S mama, not be bein%26#039; da baby mama.|||Leave him. He%26#039;s disrespecting you also. If you%26#039;re supposed to be his significant other than he seems to be showing through his actions with his baby mama that you%26#039;re not at all significant.





Somtimes you just have know when to let an investment gone bad go.|||Move on. If this has been going on for 6 years, I doubt if it%26#039;s going to get any better. Start getting out there and meeting new people. You%26#039;ll find there are guys who care enough to show you the respect you deserve and not allow otheres to disrespect you.





I know it%26#039;s hard when you love someone, but your life will be so much better without all of the added stress.|||dump this guy and fast!!!! it%26#039;s not babymama drama you%26#039;re dealing with....it%26#039;s uncaring, selfish boyfriend drama!!! you can do better!!|||You feel like he is not there for you and does not care because HE DOES NOT CARE!!!!! Move on...you deserve more then someone elses sloppy seconds. He is never going to change because he does not want to...he has two ladies pining for his attention, why would he want to?|||It could be he just wants to spend time with his children. Her behavior sounds childish and uncalled for, she may need prozac. If he was treating you right he would explain to drama queen over there that you are here to stay and she needs to come to terms with it and grow up and instead of wasting her time being a drama queen be a good mother. My advice to you is to dump him and let him run back to the other unhealthy relationship. He seems to have commitment issues, if he likes the drama let him live in it himself and not involve you. You deserve better, drop the zero find yourself a hero. Do not be any mans doormat.|||well the best thing is to live him.thats what i say becuase if he can%26#039;t relize how special you are and all the things you have done for him then he does%26#039;nt deserve to have you.in addition if he can%26#039;t even tell his other women to stop disrepecting you then thats a another sign that you should leave him. also the biggest HINT would be to leave him if he%26#039;s with some other women helping her @S$ out but he acts mad funny towards you. or you do have the right and authority to beat dat ho @$s.(im sorry that street state of mind got back into me).i just reread the ending and thats really sad if he cant be their for his child.if he cant be their for his child then sh!t i would try to get some child support. i feel likes its every mans duty to take care of his child.|||Hmmm, sounds like this lady knows how to get what she wants. Wonder if it is this lady%26#039;s delusion or if she has had help. Since you said your relationship has been on and off, has he or she given you any inkling that they have gotten back together in those timespans? I just wonder why he is willing to go out on a limb for her, but not for you.





I would not take my son%26#039;s father back if they paid me. I was overly nice and the type that just wanted everyone to be happy, but at some point you have to start saying no. Well this lady seems to have figured out that he will come running no matter what and she plays on that. I am just curious as to why after six years your boyfriend is %26quot;getting played%26quot;. I know you are invested in this relationship, but are you up for the long haul? As they say things are gonna get worse before they get better.

I'm thinking of leaving my boyfriend of just over 6 years.?

I met him when I was 23 and he was 30 and just going through a very bad divorce. We have been living together for 5 of the 6 years and at first I got along well with his 2 children. Now his daughter and I do not get along at all, whatsoever, and I cannot see this changing anytime soon. This has been my only relationship. Before this I had never had a boyfriend and have always thought low of myself. I have been just co-existing in this house but my boyfriend and I have drifted apart and I can honestly say I%26#039;m content with the situation but not happy. I recently met a guy at work who I really enjoy spending time with, who is single and closer to my age, and who has shown some interest in me and who I really enjoy talking to and being with. This has opened my eyes to how I really feel being in my current relationship. I%26#039;m not sure if I should try to stick it out and make it better or if I should just leave and try to move on.|||You should move on with your life. Sometimes people come into your life for seasons. They are there to teach a lesson and move on. Although the co-worker may or may not be the one for you, he has shown you that your current situation just isn%26#039;t going to make you happy. You are a young woman and I%26#039;m sure you want to be happily married some day. Your boyfriend may not want to go down that road again after a nasty divorce. Life is too short and everybody deserves true happiness.|||Then leave!|||just go for the one with whom u feel happy and the one u can trust|||I think you should move on the older the daughter get the more you wont get along also the longer you stay the more unhappy you will get.|||If you dont feel happy in the relationship and you and your boyfriend are not as close, then leave.|||I say go for the new guy, because if your boyfriend respected you enough he would not let his children disrespect you and I think youve gave him too much of your time.. 6 years of babysitting a disrespectul kid, oh no...


Go out with this new guy and have the time of your life :)


Good Luck|||I f your not happy get out! You deserve the best for yourself and this guy seems to not care at all. You shouldn%26#039;t have to ce %26quot;content%26quot; and %26quot;settle%26quot;. Plus he was your first and onl;y relationship. Theres more fish in the sea, you%26#039;ll see. Go out w/ the work guy and see what happens i%26#039;m not saying cheat on your bf but go out once otr twice and see how u feel. Best of luck to you!|||i would leave, no reason to stick things out, you dont have kids together, its your life all by yourself and you dont have to sacrifice for him just because you have time invested|||I went thru a similar situation myself(me 22, he 30), except his kids spent very little time with us, so they weren%26#039;t a factor. I felt that he didn%26#039;t want to move beyond living together (he had been there, done that), so the relationship went stagnant. He clung on to me, because of fear of repeated relationship failure (I see that now) I felt smothered and soon I became distracted by other men. You definitely should leave, but don%26#039;t make the same mistake that I made by not being honest. Don%26#039;t use a new interest as an excuse, you need to grow as an adult, you were young entering the relationship, and need time to get to know yourself. It is a bullshit line, but has some truth to it. You need to ask yourself - why was a 30 year old interested in me, a kid? Because he felt that he failed with someone his own age, and saw you as naiive, someone who wouldn%26#039;t see his flaws, someone who would look up to him. make sense?


I wish you good luck, and the courage to do this for yourself. If all else fails, twist things so he will break up with you!!! ie: leave a guys phone # in your pocket, stay out late without an explanation, become more distant.

Piaget"s theories please help i kinda stuck on these !: I will pic best answer 4 first answer i see :) thnk?

1. Piaget鈥檚 theory is based upon the idea that children gradually acquire the ability to understand the world around them through active _____________ with it. (1 point)

opposition

accommodation

engagement

isolation

2. In the concrete operation stage, children ___________. (1 point)

focus on language development

focus on motor and reflex actions

begin to reason logically and hypothetically

begin to process abstract concepts such as numbers

3. In this stage of Piaget鈥檚 model, the main focus of intellectual development is language and using symbols. (1 point)

Stage one

Stage two

Stage three

Stage four

4. In this stage of Piaget鈥檚 model, children learn to reason hypothetically and deductively. (1 point)

The sensorimotor stage

The preoperational stage

The concrete operation stage

The formal operation stage

5. After an accident, a man is left comatose and partially paralyzed. When he awakens he finds that he has lost the use of his legs and is unfamiliar with almost everything and everyone around him. After some time has passed, he regains sensation in his legs and must learn how to walk all over again. He also begins to become familiar with his friends and family, and looks forward to seeing them. Which of Piaget鈥檚 stages best describes this man鈥檚 situation? (1 point)

The sensorimotor stage

The preoperational stage

The concrete operation stage

The formal operation stage

Choose the definition or description that best matches the term.

6. schema

(1 point)

concept or framework that organizes and interprets information

a child鈥檚 inability to view a situation from any other perspective beside their own



The process of trying to fit new objects into an existing framework

when a child fits a concrete object into a framework that already exists for a familiar object



7. _____________________ is the process of trying to fit new objects into an existing schema. (1 point)

Accommodation

Assimilation

Symbolic play

Preoperational egocentrism

8. _____________________ is the process of changing schema to fit the characteristics of a new object. (1 point)

Assimilation

Accommodation

Symbolic play

Preoperational egocentrism

9. A child%26#039;s inability to view a situation from any other perspective beside their own is known as _____________________________. (1 point)

assimilation

symbolic play

preoperational egocentrism

accommodation

10. _________________________ occurs when a child fits a concrete object into an existing schema. (1 point)

Accommodation

Assimilation

Symbolic play

Preoccupational egocentrism|||Oh you are shooting yourself in the foot trying to get someone to do your homework for you here. You are going to see this guy over and over again and if you don%26#039;t get a basic grip of what his theories were you are going to be lost down the road. That and it is not that hard to find or comprehend either on the net or in your textbook. You need to drill down on these yourself and you will thank yourself later.|||Dont be a smartass retard. i was in a rush i ad been uot of town and had to get this quiz done ast

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|||1. engagement 2.focus on motor and reflex 3. stage three 4.formal operation stage 5. the concrete operation stage 6. the second one 7. assimilaion 8.symbolic play 9.preoperational egocentrism 10. acommodation
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  • Vocabulary test: Liberalism vs Conservatism?

    I am always looking to promote understanding among everyone so to that end I will post the DICTIONARY definitions of Liberalism and Conservatism as they relate to politics. Then I will post several hypothetical situations and ask that you guys look at each and decide what the %26quot;liberal%26quot; thing to do would be, and what the %26quot;conservative%26quot; thing to do would be based on those dictionary definitions only. Please don%26#039;t use your personal opinion as to what they mean. I got the definitions from dictionary.com


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    Liberalism: a political or social philosophy advocating the freedom of the individual, parliamentary systems of government, nonviolent modification of political, social, or economic institutions to assure unrestricted development in all spheres of human endeavor, and governmental guarantees of individual rights and civil liberties.





    Conservatism(2 definitions): The inclination, especially in politics, to maintain the existing or traditional order.





    A political philosophy or attitude emphasizing respect for traditional institutions, distrust of government activism, and opposition to sudden change in the established order.





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    Now take a look at these situations and please give me what you think the liberal thing to do would be, vs what you think the conservative action would be.





    1. Your country is a colony of another country and it taxes you without allowing you to have representatives within its government. The choice comes up whether to attempt to secede from that country through revolution, or stay under the country%26#039;s governance as it is. What would either side do?





    2. You are a legislator and a bill is proposed that would create an agency to explore a brand new path of scientific research and technology that has never been done before in the history of mankind, and there%26#039;s no guarantee that it will be successful... but if it is successful your nation will gain huge amounts of prestige and it has the chance to usher in a new age in technological breakthrough. What is each side%26#039;s vote according to the definitions posted?





    3. (last one I promise.) You operate a plant that manufactures a luxury consumer good and have the chance to be the first plant owner to adopt a radical brand new method of manufacturing that would drastically reduce costs to the point where your goods are now affordable to most people in the country at the expense of forgoing the traditional manufacturing process. Which action would each side take?





    Thanks all and have fun with the questions :). Bonus points if anyone guesses what real life scenarios I was referring to with these hypotheticals.|||Your text book definitions are not modern day conservatives and liberals, also liberals should be changed to progressives. Having said that,,just going by the text book questions......





    1. Liberals would secede while conservatives would fear change. Conservatives would look at ALL the possible outcomes of seceding and weigh their options. They would be afraid of making things worse by letting people they don%26#039;t know start their new country verses people they already know are bad, lesser of two evils. Meanwhile the liberals would blindly jump for change and not give a moments notice to the possible bad outcomes. Anyone who spoke out against their idea would be blasted as uneducated for not believing in THEIR blind ideas.





    2.Liberals would be all for it, going by text book definition, even though funding for this agency could bankrupt us with absolutely nothing to show for it in the end. Conservatives would again, weigh out the pros and cons of it and be leary of spending more money on possible wasteful things.





    3. Same on the last one.





    Dude, the last two were hard, just going by definition, conservatives don%26#039;t want anything and don%26#039;t want anything to change but that is not true in modern day conservatism. Nothing for the liberalism definition is what a modern day liberal believes.|||You can%26#039;t simply describe Liberalism or Conservatism by just the dictionary definition. There%26#039;s much more weight to it than that.|||Libs would support all three. The American Revolution, NASA, Henry Ford ?|||Neither really applies to #3 because it is purely a business decision for the managers of the business to weigh the options and decide on. Political leanings shouldn%26#039;t play a role.





    The irony in all of this is how you are obviously trying to focus on Liberalism as promoting advancement and yet in #3 you would find Unions strongly against the proposed changes. Yet Liberal groups tend to strongly support Unions and Unions consistently vote that side of the fence.





    Also ironic is that it is Liberal groups that are so strongly in support of more and more government programs. Yet the reality is that the more dependent you become on some group other than yourself, the more individual freedom you lose.





    That%26#039;s exactly what%26#039;s going on right now. The voice of Liberals today do not actually represent true Liberalism. Conservatives are a bit trickier. There are some that don%26#039;t represent real Conservatism,, but I think most do want to maintain the status quo but that%26#039;s not quite that simple. The status quo is intended to be the original design of the US with strong focus on individual freedom and an economic system in which it%26#039;s the individuals and businesses who decide how to run themselves. So while they do practice the conservative ideal of maintaining tradition, that tradition IS to allow freedom and limited government involvement.





    What%26#039;s really interesting is how only something like 15% of the US population considers themselves Liberal. A much higher percentage consider themselves Conservative, but an even higher percentage consider themselves Moderate. So how did we end up with a president and Congress that is extremely Liberal leaning?

    What should we do? It's dangerous.?

    HOW, WHY AND WHEN TO DESTROY THE UNITED STATES








    Is this interview a hoax as the %26quot;powers-that-be%26quot; want us to believe?


    When you read it, you will see why it has been suppressed, especially


    to citizens in the United States...





    Yes, it is a hoax, to the extent the masses continue to believe in


    the reality of Al Queda, rather than its creators-worldwide


    intelligence agencies funding the whole show, and in the case of the


    Mossad, its actual participation at strategic intervals.





    December 1, 2002 -





    The following interview was conducted by a reporter for the Al-


    Jazeera network with the third-in-command of the Al Queda


    organization, Mr. Mohammed Al-Asuquf. Al-Asuquf%26#039;s background is


    impressive; a doctorate in physics and masters in international


    economics. In the interview, he talks of Al Queda%26#039;s plans with total


    detachment, with deep knowledge and an unshakeable commitment to his


    cause.





    This interview was sent to Abel-Bari Atwan, chief editor of Al Quds,


    an Arabic-language newspaper published in London, but was never


    printed, due to its highly revealing [inflammatory?] contents. A copy


    of the interview came to Foz-do-Igua莽u, and was translated into


    Portuguese by a university professor in the city%26#039;s Arab community.





    This is probably the only existing version of this interview not in


    Arabic.





    Al-Jazeera: What is the objective of the Al Queda network?





    Al-Asuquf: To destroy the Great Satan, that is, the United States and


    Israel.





    Incorrect, the Great Satan is the reptilian/Illuminati cabal


    manipulating the world%26#039;s power positions.





    Al-Jazeera: Why?





    Al-Asuquf: The USA over the past 60 years has been impregnating


    [infecting] the world with its arrogance, greed and malfeasance. It


    is the incarnation of all that is evil. The people of this planet


    don%26#039;t deserve this torture.





    There is no USA per se; the satanically controlled leadership marches


    to the drumbeat of the long planned agenda for singular global


    control, currently in its final stages. The destruction of the US,


    via the Trojan horse of terrorism, is the created problem, while also


    serving as a final catalyst for global governance.





    Al-Jazeera: Isn%26#039;t this view somewhat one-sided?





    Of course it is, how else could conflict be elevated unless both


    sides created reasons to do so.





    Al-Asuquf: No; one only has to observe recent events. The disrespect


    of the Kyoto treaty; the case of the Permanent Court of International


    Justice, their inaction with regards to our Palestinian brothers; the


    financial greed and absurd speculations in Third World countries; the


    complete indifference to other oppressed people and countless other


    situations which all of the world%26#039;s leaders well know. And on top of


    all that, the Bush doctrine of %26quot;shoot first and ask questions later.%26quot;


    This is an unacceptable abuse and will therefore have very grave


    consequences.





    Who can argue with those statements?





    Al-Jazeera: But the isn%26#039;t the development and influence of America


    the fruit of its own competence?





    Al-Asuquf: Competence in extortion, competence in subjugation,


    competence in lying. After the Second World War, the USA was the only


    industrialized country with its manufacturing infrastructure intact.


    Loaning money like a good loan shark, it ended up becoming a very


    rich and powerful country; however, its greed remained undiminished.


    Today, Americans live like maharajas [?], wasting more than any other


    people, spending more than $80 billion per year just on gambling.


    They%26#039;ve lost any notion of spirituality and live in constant sin.


    With each passing day the USA demonstrates that it doesn%26#039;t know how


    to live with other peoples; for this, it deserves destruction.





    Yes, this is true, but the U.S. change of character is simply the


    movie being played out, regardless of whether Al-Asuquf is a willing


    pawn or not.





    Al-Jazeera: Wouldn%26#039;t it be easier to simply assassinate President


    George Bush?





    Al-Asuquf: In the first place, it would do no good, other than


    turning him into a martyr. When you face a powerful enemy, the best


    strategy is not to kill him, but to make him lose his leadership due


    to his incompetence, and let him live to watch this unfold.





    He removal is immaterial.





    Al-Jazeera: Does the Al Queda network have the military capacity to


    make war on the United States?





    Al-Asuquf: If we analyze history, we will see that all great wars,


    before they were started, were based on previously established


    concepts [of war]. But if we observe well, we will see that these


    concepts and strategies came to nothing, since a new type of war was


    ultimately waged. An example is the construction of the Maginot line


    by the French before the First World War, which, in reality proved to


    be completely useless against the invading forces. Aircraft carriers,


    nuclear submarines, and spy satellites will be useless in the next


    war.





    Al-Jazeera: American authorities hold more than 1,000 people


    suspected of terrorism since September 11th. Won%26#039;t this compromise Al


    Queda%26#039;s plans?





    Al-Asuquf: Of those imprisoned, perhaps 20 to 30 percent belong to Al


    Queda. Moreover, they are from the second echelon. We have more than


    500 members of the first echelon and 800 from the second, inside the


    United States.





    Al-Jazeera: What do you mean by first and second echelons?





    Al-Asuquf: In the first echelon are Al Queda members who have been in


    the United States for more than 10 years, many married with children.


    They have detailed knowledge of our plans and are just waiting for a


    phone call. They are also known as %26quot;sleepers.%26quot; Those of the second


    echelon have arrived in the last five years and have no idea of our


    plans.





    Al-Jazeera: Are even those who are married, with children, ready to


    die with their families?





    Al-Asuquf: Yes. All of them are ready to die. Long live September


    11th.





    Yes, it was the kickoff to the big party.





    Al-Jazeera: What was September 11th to Al Queda%26#039;s overall plans?





    Al-Asuquf: As a general step, it was just the beginning. It was a way


    of calling the world%26#039;s attention to what is still to come.





    Al-Jazeera: How many members does Al Queda have?





    Al-Asuquf: In the first echelon, about 5,000; in the second, about


    20,000, all over the world.





    Al-Jazeera: In the detention camp at Guantanamo, are there any


    members of the first echelon?





    Al-Asuquf: No, in fact, many of those there are not even Al Queda


    members.





    Al-Jazeera: How does Al Queda intend to destroy the most powerful


    nation in history?





    Al-Asuquf: It%26#039;s a question of logistics. Using its own poison, that


    is, attacking the heart of what they consider the most important


    thing in the world: money.





    Al-Jazeera: How so?





    Al-Asuquf: The American economy is an economy of false appearances.


    There is no real economic ballast to the American economy. The


    American GDP of is something around $10 trillion, of which just 1


    percent represents agriculture, and just 24 percent represents


    industry. Therefore, 75 percent of the American GDP is service and


    most of this is financial speculation. For those who understand


    economics, and it appears that the American Secretary of the


    Treasury, Paul O%26#039;Neil, doesn%26#039;t or doesn%26#039;t see it, it%26#039;s enough to say


    that the USA acts like a huge %26quot;dot-com,%26quot; and dollars, strictly


    speaking, are its shares.





    Al-Jazeera: Can you explain that?





    Al-Asuquf: The value of a company%26#039;s shares is directly proportional


    to the profitability of the enterprise. When a business is just a


    service provider and doesn%26#039;t produce any durable goods, the value of


    its shares depends on its credibility. Which is to say that if the


    credibility of the USA were shaken, its shares (the dollar) would


    fall with incredible rapidity and the entire American economy would


    begin to collapse.





    Al-Jazeera: How can you be so sure of this?





    Al-Asuquf: On a smaller scale, it%26#039;s exactly what large financial


    groups do to the countries of the third world to reap profits in one


    month that Swiss banks couldn%26#039;t get in four or five years.





    Al-Jazeera: So how will Al Queda shock the American economy to this


    point?





    Al-Asuquf: By provoking a deficit of between $50 and $70 trillion


    dollars, the equivalent of the United States%26#039; GDP for five to seven


    years.





    Al-Jazeera: How will this be done?





    Al-Asuquf: With the destruction of the seven largest American cities,


    along with other measures.





    Al-Jazeera: By what means will this be done?





    Al-Asuquf: Using atomic bombs.





    Nothing new here. Sollog has warned for three years now to leave all


    western cities due to the danger of nuclear attacks, which he says,


    will destroy major cities and with it the global power of the U.S.


    as well.





    Al-Jazeera: With all of the security in the USA, how, hypothetically,


    will these bombs be smuggled onto American soil?





    Al-Asuquf: They won%26#039;t be smuggled in, they%26#039;re already there.





    Al-Jazeera: What are you saying?





    Al-Asuquf: There are already seven nuclear devices on American soil


    which were put in place before September 11th and are ready to be


    detonated.





    Al-Jazeera: How did they get in to the USA?





    Al-Asuquf: Before September 11, American security was a fiasco, and


    even after, were it necessary, we could manage to smuggle bombs into


    the United States. They entered through seaports, as normal cargo.





    Previously reported during the past few years.





    Al-Jazeera: How is that possible?





    Al-Asuquf: A nuclear device is no bigger than a refrigerator;


    therefore, it can be easily camouflaged as one. Millions of cargo


    containers arrive in seaports each day, and no matter how efficient


    security is, it%26#039;s impossible to check, search through and examine


    each container.





    Al-Jazeera: Where did these atomic bombs come from?





    Al-Asuquf: They were purchased on the black market.





    Al-Jazeera: From whom?





    Al-Asuquf: We bought five from the defunct Soviet Union and two more


    from Pakistan.





    Previously reported as well.





    Al-Jazeera: How is it possible to buy an atomic bomb? Isn%26#039;t there


    security?





    Al-Asuquf: Before 1989 it was practically impossible, however after


    the fall of the Berlin Wall, the Russian army began a process of self


    destruction, and some high generals began to lose their privileges,


    and therefore, highly susceptible to corruption. Even General Lebeb,


    now deceased, and Hans Blix, the head of the arms inspection


    commission of the United Nations, have stated this, notwithstanding


    denials by Russian Defense Minister Seguey Ivanov.





    Al-Jazeera: How much does a nuclear bomb cost?





    Al-Asuquf: Somewhere around $200 million.





    Al-Jazeera: How did Al Queda get this money?





    Al-Asuquf: We have numerous sponsors.





    Yes, quite accurate. All Illuminati front organizations.





    Al-Jazeera: Who are they?





    Al-Asuquf: There are a number of countries, which support us, and


    also numerous wealthy individuals.





    Al-Jazeera: Are all of these countries Arab?





    Al-Asuquf: No, there are some European countries as well which have


    an interest in the fall of the USA.





    Al-Jazeera: Who are these wealthy individuals?





    Al-Asuquf: People who are also tired of watching the USA suck the


    wealth out of the rest of the world.





    Not exactly. First of all they are not exactly people, secondly,


    they intend to take it all for themselves.





    Al-Jazeera: Is Saddam Hussein one of them?





    Al-Asuquf: You could say that he%26#039;s just one of the collaborators,


    through Abdul Tawab Mullah Hawaish, his vice-prime minister and the


    person responsible for Iraq%26#039;s arms program.





    Al-Jazeera: Are these atomic bombs powerful ones?





    Al-Asuquf: The five Russian devices are from the old T-3 missiles,


    also known as RD-107s, and their potency is something around 100


    kilotons each, that is, 5 times as powerful as the Hiroshima bomb.


    The Pakistani bombs are less powerful, somewhere around 10 kilotons.





    This is new. My information, passed on three years ago, indicated


    only lower yield suitcase devices.





    Al-Jazeera: Can%26#039;t the bombs be detected and disarmed by American


    authorities?





    Al-Asuquf: No, in spite of their age they%26#039;ve undergone modernization


    and are well hidden. Even if they were found, they have auto


    detonation provisions should anything get close to them. Even


    electromagnetic pulses would be incapable of deactivating them.





    Al-Jazeera: Don%26#039;t they emit radiation? Can%26#039;t they be detected?





    Al-Asuquf: No. They are wrapped in thick leaden cases.





    Al-Jazeera: A suspected Pakistani ship was recently searched and all


    that was found were lead bars. Does this have anything to do with the


    bombs?





    Al-Asuquf: Yes, however that lead was just an extra layer, and was


    not essentially necessary.





    Al-Jazeera: How will the bombs be detonated?





    Al-Asuquf: There are numerous methods, a cell-phone call, radio


    frequency, seismic shocks or by timer.





    Al-Jazeera: Once detonated, how many deaths will be caused by these


    bombs?





    Al-Asuquf: It depends, since our plans are very malleable.





    Al-Jazeera: So what is the entire plan?





    Al-Asuquf: The beginning will be the detonation of a nuclear device,


    which will cause the death of between 800 thousand and one million


    people and create chaos on a scale never seen before. During this


    chaos, two or three crop sprayers that are now dismantled and stored


    in granaries [silos?] close to little-used highways in the


    countryside will take off on suicide missions to spray two or three


    large American cities with smallpox. That means that once the


    smallpox has been identified, all airports and seaports will be


    closed by quarantine. Land borders will likewise be shut down. Not


    one airplane, ship or vehicle will enter or leave the United States.


    This will cause total chaos. White House Press secretary Ari


    Fleischman will be very busy.





    Al-Jazeera: But the American government has guaranteed that within


    five days it could produce enough smallpox vaccine to inoculate the


    entire population.





    Al-Asuquf: There will be simultaneous suicide attacks against the


    vaccine production plants.





    Al-Jazeera: Which will be the first city?





    Al-Asuquf: The first city will be that in which optimal conditions


    present themselves, for example, clear skies, and winds of eight


    miles-per-hour or less in the direction of the country%26#039;s center so


    that radioactive dust can contaminate the maximum possible area.





    Al-Jazeera: Will this attack annihilate the USA?





    Al-Asuquf: No. But the process will have begun. Who will buy food


    products from the United States knowing they may have been


    contaminated by radiation? Who will travel to the United States


    knowing the possibility of contracting smallpox? Who will continue to


    invest in American institutions? Just as with the World Trade Center,


    it will be simply a question of time before the entire economic


    structure collapses and turns to dust. If our objectives are reached


    with one bomb and the smallpox, probably we%26#039;ll save the lives of


    others, however that%26#039;s risky [unlikely?], and it%26#039;s probable that six


    more bombs will be detonated, one per week, and other attacks with


    chemical weapons will be carried out.





    Al-Jazeera: How many innocent people will die?





    Al-Asuquf: According to estimates made by me and Ayman Al-Zawahiro,


    somewhere around 15 million due to the atomic bombs and their


    radiation. Of those exposed to smallpox, 25 percent will die,


    approximately five million, and many more due to the ensuing chaos


    and disorder.





    Al-Jazeera: What about the American military response?





    Al-Asuquf: There will practically be none. Even if five or ten cities


    were chosen at random to be destroyed, that would still be a small


    price to pay. The problem is the economic despair will be so great


    that even economizing by not using arms unnecessarily will occur,


    since the liquidity of American goods will be almost zero and at that


    point the United States will make more selling its Nimitz-class


    aircraft carriers, which cost about five billion dollars, to Turkey


    or Italy for one billion dollars, since the country will so urgently


    need to recapitalize, though it will be too late. Moreover, how will


    the morale of American soldiers be knowing that their entire families


    have died and their country no longer exists. Fight for what?





    Al-Jazeera: And won%26#039;t the global economy also be ruined?





    Al-Asuquf: In the beginning it will be very difficult; a serious


    economic crisis will ensue. However, without the United States, the


    world will soon arise in a more just and fraternal manner.





    Al-Jazeera: And Israel?





    Al-Asuquf: As they say... it will be dessert.





    Al-Jazeera: Does bin Laden%26#039;s spokesman, Sulaiman Abu Gheith, know


    that you are giving this interview?





    Al-Asuquf: It was he and bin Laden who suggested I give it.





    Al-Jazeera: Osama bin Laden is still alive?





    Al-Asuquf: He is quite healthy, alongside his commanders Mohammed


    Atef and Khalid Shaik Mohammed and Mullah Omar.





    Al-Jazeera: Aren%26#039;t you fearful that Al Queda%26#039;s plans will be


    discovered?





    No, just the link to the Illuminati.





    Al-Asuquf: The plan is already in its countdown, and nothing can stop


    it.





    Al-Jazeera: Not even if the United States asks forgiveness and


    changes its attitudes?





    Al-Asuquf: That won%26#039;t happen, and even if it did, it%26#039;s too late.





    Al-Jazeera: When will the attack begin?





    Al-Asuquf: I can%26#039;t reveal that. Allah Akbar.|||Nice propaganda piece, there. It has nothing to do with this forum, and really isn%26#039;t a question.





    Like Al jazeera is a reputable news agency, and not a mouthpiece for Islamofascism.





    I wonder why there are so many conspiracy theorists in this forum? It seems like all the Kool Aid drinkers flock to Yahoo.|||LMAO this is EXACTLY what i was thinking. Good going, you rock! I think there is alot of Loose Change here.

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    |||chapelite %26amp; many others on here with those hoods are.. kinda creepy i think. %26#039;laughs%26#039; satanists.. what%26#039;s the point? you guys did notice his %26#039;16 years, 16 years%26#039; bit, right ;)? so.. anyway - hows life? drop me a note - i%26#039;ve got questions. : ) like the koolaid junk - u referring to the syringe thing?

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    |||The hood is part of a monk%26#039;s robe. Because of my faith, some call me %26quot;Monk,%26quot; though I am Protestant.





    Re: Kool-Aid; Jim Jones%26#039; cult died drinking poisoned Kool-Aid.





    People who choose the %26quot;party-line%26quot; on anything are called Kool-Aid drinkers, a la Jim Jones, etc.

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    |||wow , pretty interesting topic , i am a canadien and i`m not that much of a fan of those american if you see what i mean , so i was wonder ,if this is all true , will it have a big impact on Canada you think ? I`d really like to receive an answer back pls

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    |||YOU ARE CRAZY IF YOU THINK ANYBODY IS GOING TO READ THAT








    OK look man don%26#039;t worry about this kind of crap this **** is for th government, we should not even have the right to see this kinda thing becasue of ignoramuses like well yourself|||thanks for the 2 points,I have a nice suprise for anyone who wants to come to my doorstep and attack me,my family or property,I am sure I will go but not without a fight and I will take many with me,I am positive all brother Americans will do the same,USA#1|||My fear from this is immeasurable.





    ...come on, reptilians?|||LOL, what a joke. The reporter is asking the dude how much it costs and the guy answers him? and tells him EXACTLY the price and where the money is coming from?


    This interview must be a figment of some ones imagination.





    WE ARE NOT SCARED OF THEM!!!|||Reptilians? Are you kidding? Reptilians are controlling the world? What about the Aquatics, Arboreals, Avians, or Insectoids? Don%26#039;t they get to control the world too?





    Please seek help.|||Jesus Christ is in control of my destiny. Though I walk through the shadow of the valley of death, I will fear no evil....|||First just hope its not true then second stock up on food and other need to have supplies.|||will the US be attacked like that in the future..maybe...maybe even likely but 2 things....1) if the towelheads had a nuke in the US right now most likely they wouldnt wait to detonate it...and for two 2) why would lord god king mohammad there be bragging about it? why not just do it? and the worlds economy would collapse also...not saying its not a possible scenario...the whole thing just sounds corny to me.

    What should I do in this situation?

    OK there is a guy, we both like each other, but he told me that he has no plans of taking the relationhip any further (but his actions seems different). Anyways, he hangs out with his %26#039;ex%26#039; a lot, and they are like a big group of friends. One thing about him is, he is too smart to let any one know that there was any relationship existed between both of them. He has done the same with me too, no one knows that something happened between us. I get mad at times, thinking about the whole thing, like I could have avoided this situation i am in, I could have been sensible to stop all this.





    Now his friends (not his ex)are inviting me to hang out with them and go to gym and stuff. One part of me want to hang out with them, so I can spend more time with him and may be things change between us, The other part want to run away from him as far as possible.





    I am not sure what to do, I definitely dont want to be someone who he choses to hang out in private. But I dont have a lot of friends so I end up doing it when he comes around. When he avoids me after being intimate, i feel like killing him grrrrrrrrr





    I donno what to do. I dont feel so good abt myself at this point either|||Get over him. Get the idea of being with him out of your head. He is just trying to be with you when it%26#039;s convenient. I think he%26#039;s playing you and his %26quot;ex.%26quot; Stop giving in to him and fooling around with him, that is only letting him get away with it. Be friends with him, but that%26#039;s it. If you enjoy hanging out with those kids, then hang out with them.. but I would definitely stop trying to pursue anything with this kid at all. He sounds like he likes to take advantage of girls who are interested i him. You should be with a guy who likes telling people you guys are hanging out and who reciprocates the feelings.|||Defenitely STOP! I%26#039;ve been in this situation before and its not worth it, if he really cared about you he wouldn%26#039;t hesitate to make your realtionship more public, you dont want to be with someone who doesnt care about you so i suggest you stop now before you get more attached to him, thrust me you dont want to get hurt and guys like that rarely change and when they do its kinda too late. I understand you have feeling for him and you like being around him but that is just hurting you more. Move on with your life, odd are you are only physically attracted to him and like the whole sneaking around thing. Good luck|||Look! Real Relationships are not to be hidden! If He doesnt want to take that relation1 any longer. you find the way to tell him that you fell so bad about it! if he keeps as same as before. just finish it! And about hanging out with fiends or his friends you must not feel any uncomfortable. ok


    just hang out with them if he doesn%26#039;t like. just don%26#039;t pay attention to him

    Right to quiet enjoyment law pertain to townhomes that are owned?

    I recently posted a question about any legal action I can take against neighbors attached to us in a townhome who CONTINUALLY bother us with loud bass from their surround sound, playing instruments at 2 am, etc. My HOA has literally said %26quot;we can do nothing,%26quot; and police will only respond after 11 pm. That gives them all day to freely act like idiots and disturb my family. I have tried NUMEROUS times to talk to them in person and write. Nothing ever changes. Someone recently said I have what is called a %26quot;right to quiet enjoyment%26quot; of my home. It seems this only exists in tenant/renter situations. Is the same true for a townhome that is owned outright? I%26#039;m at the end of my rope with these inconsiderate idiots, and I%26#039;m sick of not being able to be in any room where I can%26#039;t hear the BOOM BOOM of their surround sound. The bass carries through my entire house. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I have written down every time there is a disturbance. I will write one more letter to them outlining all the attempts I%26#039;ve made, but that%26#039;s it. I%26#039;m ready to consult a lawyer. Talking to them in person does no good, it%26#039;s already been done.


    But, it infuriates me that I%26#039;ll have to spend money, when it%26#039;s their fault.|||I don%26#039;t know what you could do apart from having the walls sound proofed. I know it sounds extreme but it works, it really cuts down on the noise level.


    If you decide to move you would have these jerks playing that bass while prospective buyers are looking at the residence, they would pass no matter what the price unless they really like music.


    I don%26#039;t know how people live like that, I%26#039;d have a chronic headache.|||If the disturbance is very, very bad, you might be able to sue under the common law tort of private nuisance (as opposed to a public nuisance, such as a factory%26#039;s smell that affects numerous members of the community). Because the elements and tests for most torts can vary from state to state, you need to do some research on how your state%26#039;s courts have responded to private nuisance claims in the past; some states are more hesitant to apply the tort than others. The usual test boils down to balancing each property owner%26#039;s reasonable use of his own property. The general concept and history of nuisance actions can be found at the link below.





    I just wanted to note that the phrase %26quot;right to quiet enjoyment%26quot; has several different meanings at law, only one of which pertains to landlord/tenant situations. The phrase has a second meaning when it is used in a covenant contained in a deed (i.e., it is a certain type of grantor promise contained in a general warranty deed, but not a quitclaim deed), and a third meaning when applied to nuisance torts.|||The right to %26quot;Quiet Enjoyment%26quot; is something that a landlord must provide to a tenant, or the obligation to pay rent may be excused by operation of law.





    This applies not to actual noise cases, and generally refers to renting an apartment free of rodent or insect infestation, that has working plumbing, heat, and a roof that does not leak. Such factors have been determined by courts across the country to be necessary for an apartment to be habitable, and if such problems are present, the tenant may not have to pay rent until they are fixed.





    Such collateral problems as torn carpeting, broken air conditioner, and noisy neighbors, have unilaterally been determined to not constitute a lack of habitability and thus not deprive the tenant of quiet enjoyment sufficient to effect the tenancy.





    There is no similar legal theory establishing a duty to provide habitabilty between neighboring property owners.|||Read your strata agreement, you should have a process for complaints.

    Friday, September 23, 2011

    Affectionate term in Spanish for Stepmother?

    My kids, 8 and 11, are generally not permitted to address adults by their first names even if the adult requests it (call me old fashioned).



    I remarried a couple years ago after a divorce. My wife is Mexican (actually dual nationallity). We speak both Spanish and English in the home and definitely maintain both cultures. Her kids (from her prior marriage are grown but to us they are Mija and Mijo). My kids are much younger, refer to their natural mother as Mom and we have no intention of having that change. Since we started dating, to my kids my wife was %26quot;Miss Nita%26quot;. But over the years Miss Nita sounds more and more wierd.



    For my son, the otherwise perfectly acceptalbe term mamacita, or little mother, is uncomfortable. What other Spanish terms are their for something like little mother or step-mom (my wife hates madrastra)? My wife is at a loss because ours is the only blended families in her background.



    I might add that both kids adore my wife because she has an utterly unflappable and kind demeanor. They began calling her %26quot;Not Mom%26quot; because because their natural mother is very volitile and has a bad temper. I immediately stopped that because I they were using it in a way that I thought was disrespectful to their natural mother. So we are all looking for a diminutive for stepmom that preserves the Mexican culture and does not in any way denigrate or diminish the role of their natural mother. Keep in mind, however, that them using her first name will not be acceptable until they are quite a bit older.



    The point is, all of us, kids included are looking for something affectionate so the evil stepmom concept doesn%26#039;t exist in our situation. All other good faith suggestions are welcome.|||You should let them call her by her first name. It%26#039;s not disrespectful.
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  • Why not force society to legalize all types of relationship?

    For example bigamy, polygamy, incest, consensual sex between a 28 year old man and 14 year old girl, etc.... since gays want to force society to recognize their union to be called marriage.





    I am of course not for legalizing incest, bigamy, etc. but I am just asking because I am proving the point that there are boundaries that should exist for every situation.





    Yes this is a stupid question, but the comparison of gay marriage to Brown vs. Board of education and the hundreds of years of excruciating oppression of African Americans even to this day, is just as stupid. There use to be actual laws making it ok to dehumanize African Americans and defining them as property, just because they were Black. Jim Crow laws made it so that a person of color was limited in every way including voting, just because of the color of their skin. Interracial marriage was outlawed because people didn%26#039;t want blacks to %26quot;mix and contaminate%26quot; white blood.





    African Americans can not hide the color of their skin. And when African Americans were mixed to looking almost white, they were forced with the choice of %26quot;passing%26quot; in order for society to give them a fair chance based on the merit of their work, thoughts, etc. Gays have never been forced to sit in the back of the bus or even give up their seat just because they were gay. Gay were not being killed just because they so much as even whistled at a person of the opposite race. Gays were never forced into slavery. I can go on with endless example that can cast a very broad difference between gays plight vs African Americans. In essence, gays are able to function in society just like anyone else. Gay is a behavior not a physical attribute. Physical attributes can not be hidden or changed just because one feels like being black or not. So it is NOT the same!





    I am in no way belittling the suffering gays have gone through because of hate crimes. Those acts are not right in any way! I just said this question to prove a point. The point of how rules are establish to govern our behaviors. People have many WANTS, but doesn%26#039;t mean that our wants make it right to do whatever we want to. I don%26#039;t hate gays because then I would be hating my own father, uncle, some of my aunts, friends, and great coworkers. I am just voicing my disagreement with various points that I have heard and read.|||all of what you have said is true. Many gay people will argue that being gay is not a choice when it is. Okay you have this attraction for the same sex but no one makes you act on them, you choose to. So what I am saying is just because you choose to do something dont force it on me. I have plenty of gay family and friends but I do not approve of what they do but I still love them. People can argue that since their great grandparents, grandparents, and parents smoked, that they did not chose to. That still doesnt mean that I will just accept you blowing smoke in my face while I am pregnant. So okay have you relationship but dont try to force your lifestyle on me...|||I%26#039;m sick of this argument.





    Some of the relationship types you cited ARE NOT CONSENSUAL.





    An underage person can not give mature consent because they have not reached the age at which it is deemed by the majority to be old enough to make an informed decision.





    And anyone who wants to bring up bestiality, same argument. Animals cannot give consent, therefore it is an invalid point.





    And polygamy? Well why not? The mormons seem to be very fond of that idea, and they supported Prop 8....talk about your double standards|||What can one say? We are living in an evil age. The end of world is not too far from us.|||I think the line that needs to be enforced is MINOR CHILDREN have no business being sexualized by adults.





    I feel whatever consenting adults want to do should not be legislated except public sexual display. That%26#039;s not appropriate by any sexual persuasion. The thing about public display is that it is not consentual and that%26#039;s my only issue with it. If people are consenting i really have no place protesting it - if i don%26#039;t like something i don%26#039;t worry about it nor think I have the right to change people.





    No one can come up with any proof gay unions harm people in any way. So I think people need to back off that.

    How can I help my boyfriend ?

    My boyfriend, a nice guy, we get along pretty well most of the time. The relationship has a few problems as most do. There is a ten year age difference I鈥檓 28 and he is 18. I really don鈥檛 think that should be important. I am never been married nor have any children, he does not either. The way I usually tend to think of it is that despite the age difference we are sort in the same stage of life, just getting starting, though I obviously have more practical experience. He is a really intelligent guy, very interested in history and things like that. He has a problem that I just can鈥檛 quite pin down. I can鈥檛 tell if it鈥檚 a matter of his age or his upbringing. He was raised by his father鈥檚 parents. His mom was sixteen when he was born, his father was in his thirties and both were addicted to drugs. He has always known his parents but they were never his care takers. He was the youngest child that his grandparents raised; they were also raising two other grandchildren, their daughter鈥檚 children. Growing up it does not seem that he was allowed to make any decisions on his own; he was not asked he wanted to do but told what he was going to do. He was never taught any life skills such as cooking or washing clothes. He cannot eventie his own shoes. Also he does not drive. We have just moved into an apartment and I happened to call from work to make sure that everything was going ok; he said that the cat threw up and he did not know what to do about. I told him step by step how to clean up cat puke. What concerns me it that he seems to be completely lacking in self motivation and initiative. I remember being that age and there was a lot I did not know but little that I would not try. Whatever exists in people that causes them to see a problem and then use trial and error coupled with their own ingenuity to solve the problem seems to completely lacking from him. This worries and confounds me. I guess I really want to know the cause, was he raised with so little sense of control that he will not try to effect change over any situation or is he do lacking in self confidence that he does not think anything he can do will matter? Also he is not special or developmentally delayed in anyway, he just graduated from High School.|||You should get him a troll doll to keep him company.





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    After reading your additional details I need to add one thing:





    %26quot;Can I substitute a salad for the fries in the #5?%26quot;|||You are 18 and have more practical experience than him? He needs to take a home economics class for starters.





    He just graduated from high school at 28 or he only has a high school diploma?





    I think you are exaggerating about the shoe tying, he had to have taken PE.





    He has to be able to clean up otherwise what girl would date him? This has to be baloney.|||Just give him his space. He sounds like a real go getter.|||I like the first 2 answers. Thumbs up!|||He may also be part lazy. Plus, with your being older, if he, in any way, sees you as a mother figure, then he%26#039;ll behave like he did around the woman raising him. That is, she made all the decisions and told him what to do. He expects the same from you.|||Good grief, do you want a boyfriend or a son?


    He can%26#039;t drive, doesn%26#039;t know how to clean up cat puke.


    Age difference has little to do with it, there are some 30 year old men who are still babies because their moma did everything for them.





    No self motivation, no intitiative. RED FLAGS, honey. If he%26#039;s willing to change, maybe some professional counseling would help.


    Otherwise - you deserve better.|||a whole lot of people are going to insult you for this post. ok, he%26#039;s got some issues. you go into great detail to describe the things he does and doesn%26#039;t do. you want some honesty, here it is. the thing you can%26#039;t put your finger on about what is wrong with him, is precisely what you have been writing about. you are very attracted to men who need nurturing. there is something inside you that wants to take care of him. this is not normal behavior. you are mothering him. before you get concerned, you need to realize that as abnormal as both of you are, you both have found the complement of each other. look, its not normal in the eyes of this world. however, if both of you are happy, that should be ok. just remember that the day he no longer needs the nurturing that you provide, he will leave you because he no longer needs you. right now, both of you need each other.|||Thousands of schools graduate %26quot;delayed%26quot; students.





    If his parents were into drugs, it may of did something to his own mind.





    I have a son like this. He%26#039;s totally LOST if he doesn%26#039;t have a girlfriend to do everything for him. His father was the same way. His grandparents didn%26#039;t make their boys do anything. The grandma did it all.





    On your days off make a list of things to teach him.|||You shouldn%26#039;t have to raise your own boyfriend. You might try getting someone who is a little more mature. If you want kids, what kind of father would he be? I know you love him but you need to move on.|||High schools pass %26quot;special%26quot; people all of the time. he is deffinitely special. he can;t even clean up cat puke??! there%26#039;s something wrong there. i guess you%26#039;re just going to have to play %26quot;mommy%26quot; for the rest of his life.|||%26quot;Also he is not special or developmentally delayed in anyway%26quot;....except you just outlined how he is developmentally delayed in many ways. If you are %26quot; in the same stage of life%26quot; with a developmentally delayed 18 year old, you should rethink this pairing unless you really want a son to raise.|||Your boyfriend doesn%26#039;t need a girlfriend, he needs a mother. If you are comfortable with that situation than that%26#039;s your choice. You will probably be his mother for the rest of your life. Good luck.|||It sounds to me like if your his mommy ,What are you doing with a kid sooo young what can you have in common don%26#039;t you want a man who will take care of you not the other way around .|||Whatever you do, do not let the government find him.|||You%26#039;re questioning why an 18 year old does not seem to show initiative or self motivation? He is 18. That is how most 18 year olds act. So basically you%26#039;re questioning why is an 18 year old being an 18 year old?





    Just because you wer emore motivated at 18 does not mean he should be. It has nothing to do with the way he was raised.. If he has never had a cat.. why would he know how to clean up cat puke? Common Sense on your part might help!

    Protection of a Business Idea in India?

    I have a Business Idea which I want to propose to some companies doing similar business. As I want this to be an extension of the existing business, it is imperative that I need a partnership instead of starting the whole thing from scratch.





    The problem as is obvious is that, the moment I give a presentation to any of the companies, the companies might not be interested in the person who gives the ideas, as they could implement it on their own with may be a few changes.The case would be pretty much the same if one goes ahead and shows this to a venture capitalist.





    I have seen that the Indian Laws do not support patenting of any business idea or model (they say so pretty explicitly).





    How is anyone supposed to go ahead and make any proposal in such a situation? Can anyone help me out here?





    Thanks in advance|||I think u should go on ur own. Don%26#039;t discuss it with any companies.

    *For EVERYONE: "What is the differnece between unconditonally loving people & being selfishly attached to them

    A Buddhist Perspective on Unconditional Love vs. Selfish Attachments.


    Source: Thubten Chodron.





    What in the world is the difference between loving a person and being attached to them?


    Love is the sincere wish for others to be happy, and to be free from suffering.


    Having realistically recognized others%26#039; kindness as well as their faults, love is always focused on the other person鈥檚 welfare. We have No ulterior motives to fulfill our self-interest, or to fulfill our desires; to love others simply because they exist.


    Attachment, on the other hand, exaggerates others%26#039; good qualities and makes us crave to be with them. When we%26#039;re with them, we%26#039;re happy, but when we%26#039;re separated from them, we are often miserable. Attachment is linked with expectations of what others should be or do.


    Is love as it is usually understood in our society


    really love? or attachment ? or even possibly for some, only selfish lust.


    Let us examine this a bit more. Generally we are attracted to people either because they have qualities we value or because they help us in some way. If we observe our own thought processes mindfully, and carefully - we%26#039;ll notice that we look for specific qualities in others.


    Some of these qualities we find attractive, others are those our parents, or society value.


    We examine someone%26#039;s looks, body, education,


    financial situation, social status. This is how most of us decide on whether or not the person holds any true value to us.


    In addition, we judge people as worthwhile according to how they relate to us. If they help us, praise us, make us feel secure, listen to what we have to say, care for us when we are sick or depressed, we consider them good people, and it is this type of people we are most likely to be more attracted to.





    But this is very biased, for we judge them only in terms of how they relate to %26quot;us%26quot;, as if we are the most important person in the world.


    After we%26#039;ve judged certain people to be good for us, whenever we see them it appears to us as if goodness is coming from them, but if we are more aware, we recognize that we have projected this goodness onto them.





    Desiring to be with the people a lot who make us feel good, we become emotional yo-yo%26#039;s -


    when we%26#039;re with these people, we%26#039;re Up, when we%26#039;re not with these people, we%26#039;re Down.





    Furthermore, we form fixed concepts of what our relationships with those people will be and thus have expectations of them. When they do not live up to our expectations of them, we%26#039;re very disappointed, or may become angry !


    We want them to change so that they will they will match what we think they are. But our projections and expectations come from our own minds, not from the other people.


    Our problems arise not because others aren%26#039;t


    who we thought they we%26#039;re, but because we mistakenly thought they were something they


    aren%26#039;t.


    Checklist: %26quot;I Love You if __________ %26quot;


    What we call love is most often attachment.


    It is actually a disturbing attitude that overestimates the qualities of another person.


    We then cling to tightly to that person, thinking our happiness depends on that person.


    %26quot;Love, on the other hand, is an open and very calm, relaxed attitude. We want someone to be happy, and free from suffering simply because they exist. While attachment is uncontrolled and much too sentimental, Love is direct and powerful. Attachment obscures our judgment and we become impatient, angry, and impartial, helping only our dear ones and harming those who we don%26#039;t like. Love builds up others, and clarifies our minds, and we


    access a situation by thinking of the greatest good for everyone. Attachment is based on


    selfishness, while Love is founded upon cherishing others, even those who do not look very appealing to the eyes. Love looks beyond


    all the superficial appearances, and dwells on the fact that they are just like us: they want inner peace, happiness, and want to avoid suffering. If we see unattractive, dirty, ignorant people, we feel repulsed because our selfish minds want to know attractive, intellectual, clean, and talented people. Love, on the other hand, never evaluates others by these superficial standards and looks much deeper into the person. Love recognizes that regardless of the others%26#039; appearances, their experience is the same as ours: they seek inner peace, to be happy, to be free from sufferings, and to do their best to avoid problems.


    When we%26#039;re attached, we%26#039;re not mentally and emotionally free. We overly depend on and cling to another person to fulfill our mental and especially our emotional needs. We fear losing the person, feeling we%26#039;d be incomplete without him.


    This does not mean that we should suppress our emotional needs or become aloof, alone and totally independent, for that too does not solve the problem. We must simply realize our unrealistic needs, and slowly seek to eliminate them. Some emotional needs may be so strong that they can%26#039;t be dissolved immediately.


    If we try to suppress them or pretend they do not exist, we become anxious, insecure, falling into a depression. In this case, we can do our best to fulfill our needs while simultaneously working gradually to subdue them.


    %26quot;The core problem is we seek to be loved, rather than to love. We yearn to be understood by others rather than to understand them. In all honesty, our sense of emotional insecurities comes from the selfishness obscuring our own


    minds. %26#039;We can develop self-confidence by recognizing our inner potential to become a selfless human being with many, magnificent qualities, then we%26#039;ll develop a true and accurate feeling of self-confidence. And


    then we%26#039;ll seek to increase true love, without attachments, to increase compassion, to cultivate patience and understanding, as well as generosity, concentration and wisdom.%26#039;





    %26#039;Under the influence of attachment we%26#039;re bound by our emotional reactions to others. When they are nice to us, we%26#039;re happy. When they ignore us, or speak sharply to us, we take it personally and are unhappy. But pacifying attachment doesn%26#039;t mean we become hard-hearted. Rather, without attachment there will be space in our hearts and minds for genuine Affection and Impartial Love for them.


    We%26#039;ll be actively involved with them.


    If we learn to subdue our attachments, we can most definitely have successful friendships and personal relationships with others. These relationships will be richer because of the freedom and respect - the relationships will be based on. We%26#039;ll care about the happiness and the misery of all human beings equally, simply because everyone is the same in wanting and needing inner peace, happiness, and not wanting to suffer. However, our lifestyles and interests may be more compatible with those of some people more so than with others and that is alright. In any case, our relationships will be based on mutual Love, mutual interests, and the wish to help each other in life.|||My friend,





    A beautiful question and an even more gracious comment. It is greatly appreciated. I will have to reread and reread to savor All you have imparted. I am humbled by your desire to heal and show compassion to others. For simplicity sake, I look to the teaching of Jesus%26#039; followers. In 1Corinthians I find what Love is:


    %26quot;Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. Love does not demand its own way. Love is not irritable, and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged. It is never glad about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.%26quot;





    The selfish, egocentric person is the total opposite.





    Namaste





    Peace and Love|||That was awesome and very enlightening, thanks for sharing!

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    |||Huh always knew about unconditional love and attachment but never compared them like that, THANKS!

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    |||One leads to recipricol love, the other lands you in jail.|||Unconditional love has no strings attached .Selfishly attached means you have a motive|||A NUN, who searched for enlightenment in many temples, always carried with her a little Buddha she had carved for herself out of wood, and which she had covered with gold leaf. It was very pretty.





    One day she came to stay at a temple where there were many Buddhas. Whenever she burned incense before her golden Buddha, she begrudged the others any of the savor, and so she always used a little funnel that carried the smoke of the incense straight to her Buddha%26#039;s nose. Within a week her Buddha was laughable - his face no longer was gold leaf, but black smut.|||true love expects nothing in return.|||Wow, but do you go on and on and on.


    I really only read the first part since it went on so long.


    But I agree, unconditional love is just that, unconditional. Unconditional love would say, %26quot;yes I love you, I love you enough to let you go and be where you need to be.%26quot;


    Selfish attachment would say %26quot;no you can%26#039;t go, what about me?%26quot;|||Wow. I couldn%26#039;t read all that. But I would say the difference could be easily exemplified by me and my husband. My husband loves me unconditionally (don%26#039;t know why).... while I am selfishly attatched (who WOULDN%26#039;T %26quot;love%26quot; a man like that).





    I remember something said about Jesus: %26quot;We love him because he loved us first%26quot; or something like that. The unselfish love that some people give, can nurture a wounded soul until they also can give the same unconditional love (if they are honest, and interested in self-improvement). The wisdom of one, becomes the reason for the grateful adoration and emulation of another. Thank-you to all those who love unconditionally, and teach people like me to do likewise.

    How do I lead this debate?

    im initiating the debate so...im neutral on the subject. I just need good questions.

    Here are the ones so far:



    1.How many of you have been to other countries

    Is there a difference between the air here and the air there

    If Yes , why

    2.How do you think that Hong Kong got themselves in this situation

    3.Many of you have heard that the effects of global warming and air pollution is irreversible. Do you think this is true

    4.Can Technology and Human development exist without pollution and without harming the natural world

    5.What kind of everyday choices can we do to improve our air quality

    6.What can the government change or contribute to help change the global situation

    7.What kind of human values contribute to the destruction of nature and our environnment

    8.Do you think that their is a limit for society or the world to be based on indiviualism

    9.What can we do to promote public mindedness versus individualism

    10.



    I need one last one.|||Debating topics or %26quot;moots%26quot; are usually a statement rather than a question, and people take a side on the statement (either affirmative or negative). For example, a moot I debated recently was %26quot;That nuclear power is our best bet%26quot; and we were negating this. So I suggest turning the questions into positive statements (so people can agree or disagree), and maybe using the one on nuclear power. Another good one is %26quot;that we should embrace genetic engineering%26quot;. That last one is a good moot. It is relatively easy to debate over, it was part of an impromptu debating tournament I was in. We only got three minutes after hearing the moot and your side to prepare, so it%26#039;s a good moot if you just want a casual debate.|||Are you sure that%26#039;s development and not just a whacko example of nondevelopment?
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    I have asked about this before a few days ago but the situation/symptoms have changed. I%26#039;m really sad, and I am so sure many of you will be able to relate. My period was due the 21st (Friday) and I was positive it wouldn%26#039;t come. I%26#039;ve had 2 kids and although I am not TTC and my husband def is NOT, I have to admit after I felt pregnant and had all of the symptoms I did start to fall in love with my little seed. I had 2 very fain


    t positive Hpt%26#039;s and then a few days later with another brand I


    got a negative. So here comes the 21st when period is due


    and I wake at 2am to find I%26#039;m bleeding when I wipe and it%26#039;s


    bright red. Then when I go to flush nothing is there! Well, I had


    some cramps later in the day but nothing serious and the


    bleeding was changing color sometimes darker, sometimes


    pinkish. I was wearing a pad at this point and it was showing


    on the pad but nothing like a period at all. Then I find a tiny


    clot or two, not even pea sized. So here comes the panic. I


    called the Dr and they%26#039;re doing a blood test Monday and told


    me to call and cnxl my blood test if the bleeding becomes a


    period. Well, the bleeding lasted for ONE day and is now just light pink when I wipe sometimes (sometimes nothing) and no blood in the toilet. I know the whole %26#039;wait until Monday%26#039;....but you all know how gut wrenching it is to sit and wonder if your baby is gone or ever even existed! I gained 10lbs...none of my pants fit...i pee every 5 mins almost, nauseous, so bloated that people ask me how far along I am, craving sweets and I do NOT eat sweets...its all so bizarre. With my 1st son I bled so much they told me that I miscarried and then I found out 2 weeks later I was 6 weeks pregnant and he is now almost 4. My second son I had bleeding like this but can%26#039;t remember the color or any of that! He is now 2 and a half. So...I am thinking that I obviously do not produce enough HCG to detect at 4 weeks since it wasn%26#039;t detected either time until around 6 weeks but I don%26#039;t see why I had those faint positives last week! I calculated and I would be 4 weeks today. I guess I just wanted to hear some good stories! Especially any clot experiences.....ugh ladies isn%26#039;t this hard!!!!! Baby dust to all. Xo|||To me it sounds like your period and you were probably not pregnant. 10 pounds is way to much to gain this early on, unless your a few months pregnant and just didnt know.. but if you were a few months pregnant you would be testing strong positives on a HPT by now. Most people dont gain more then a pound in their first 4-5 weeks and usually like 3-5 pounds in their second and thats just due to excess water weight forming around the baby. I would say you were probably never pregnant and are just getting yor period, if you think you are and talk yourself in to thinking you are you will make your body produce typical pregnancy symptoms. I do it almost every month, every month I think im pregnant as we are TTC but every month im not. Its a typical lady thing to do! lol however this might be an indication you want to TTC your third? if you aren%26#039;t freaking out and are happy at the possiblity you could be, you might want to add another addition but are worried about your husbands thoughts? I hope you get the answers you want from your blood test :) good luck, and congrats if you are!!! :)|||we have to study your case thoroghly please tell in more detail,meanwhile let the report of the doctor will give some clue|||its very hard n frustratin i know..





    it sounds to me as tho it is jus spotting.. ( if u r pregnant)





    i rekon its nuffin to worry about.. alot of women get this n its very common...

    What should i expect if i'm having this situation?

    I had sex with my husband first time on 11 April.In beginning, i felt weakness specially in my legs. After few days, i felt too much hunger and a little pain on the left side, in the bottom of my belly.Then i felt so much pain in my breast, my breast was heavy and large in size more than before. My periods were late 2 weeks.Before getting my periods,when i did sex for 2 days i saw a light red colored water after sex when i discharged.On the 3rd day, i felt wet myself when i awoke up early in the morning.I used a pad in case because i thought those are my periods because i had bleeding too much.The bleeding was for 4 days too much, on 5th day it was about to dry and on 6th day, i saw a brown colored blood on my pad but i was almost dried that%26#039;s what i took a shower. I felt some white colored water/spots on my underwear when i was changing my cloths.It was not too much. Now i don%26#039;t have pain in my breast but they are still large and heavy like before and the circles on my breast are little dark than before. Since 2 days, i%26#039;m feeling weakness to much and very light headaches too. I don%26#039;t know i%26#039;m pregnant or not because i can be pregnant may be because Since 11 April i have unprotected sex with my husband daily.I want to know that what happened to me if i%26#039;m pregnant because i got bleeding like periods.Is that a miscarriage or what? Is there anyone who can help me out and if i%26#039;m not pregnant or having miscarriage then why the pregnancy symptoms are existing in myself?because i got my periods 2 weeks late on 15 May and it was ended on 20 May.If it was a miscarriage then why i%26#039;m still having pregnancy symptoms in myself like weakness too much and light headaches?First time i got weakness and headache in the night of 27 May and i feel weakness and headaches in the night more than in the day.Is there anyone who can help me out in this toff situation?Please i need a possible and correct answer.I%26#039;m 20 years old.|||I would expect someone in your situation to pay a visit to a physician...

    What happened to Christiania, Kopenhagen?

    Was in Christiania, Kopenhagen, many years ago. Then it was said they were going to close it down. What happened with it? Is it still the same neighbourhood as before? Has tolerance in Denmark changed with new rightist government? Please I would apreciate as many details as possible about the actual situation, status and life in Christiania, if it still exists..Thanks|||It%26#039;s still there in the same location. They have a website: http://www.christiania.org


    It%26#039;s in Danish, however.





    In 2004, the Danish government passed a law abolishing the collective and treating its 900 members as individuals. Beginning in the summer of 2005, a series of protests have been staged by Christiania members. During the same time, Danish police have made frequent sweeps of the area.





    The Christiania Caf茅 Maanefiskeren installed an outdoor countboard of police patrols on Christiania in November 2005. In the summer of 2006 this passed the 1000th patrol (about 4鈥? patrols a day). These patrols normally consist of 6 to 20 police officers, often dressed in combat uniform and some times with police dogs.





    In January 2006, the government proposed that Christiania would be turned into a residential community adding condominiums for 400 new residents. Current residents, now paying DKK 1450 (USD 250) per month, would be allowed to remain but need to begin paying normal rent for the facilities, albeit below market rent levels. Christiania has rejected this scenario, fearing the freetown would turn into a normal Copenhagen neighbourhood. In particular, the concept of privately owned dwellings would be incompatible with Christiania%26#039;s collective ownership.





    Christiania has countered the government%26#039;s plans for normalisation with its own community driven planning proposal, which after 8 months of internal workshops and meetings gained consensus at the common meeting before being published in early 2006. Christiania%26#039;s own development plan was awarded the Initiative Award of the Society for the Beautification of Copenhagen in November 2006 and the plan has received positive attention from the municipality of Copenhagen and the Agenda 21 Society for its sustainability goals and democratic process.

    Is Obama's idea of "Change" the destruction of American freedom and independence in exchange for the creation?

    of a new Constitution which will provide the President with the Power he needs to regulate American Society in a manner he deems appropriate?


    Is the Obama Administration adhering to the mantra of %26quot;Never let a crisis go to waste%26quot;? Is Obama creating or perpetuating various crisis situations to promote public demand for actions that grant him more power?


    Is he taking over Industries, banks, pursuing immigration policy that is in variance with existing laws, setting up a takeover of energy production, etc.? So far he has been blocking efforts to prevent the environmental damage from the oil leak and thereby increasing the crisis situation and demand for his Cap %26amp; Trade legislation.


    Will he use crisis after crisis to create a demand for changes in the Constitution?|||Obama intends to change America to the extreme. He wants to equal out wealth even though much of that wealth was gained through risk taking and extremely hard work. You see, since individualism doesn%26#039;t mean much to Obama (he only sees us in the %26quot;collective%26quot;sense)...what you have and how you got it, as an individual , is meaningless to him.|||If you don%26#039;t think Obama%26#039;s COMPREHENSIVE REFORM for America is the destruction of everything we hold dear, and the erection and [forced] acceptance of Socialism.... you%26#039;ve been living with blinders on for the last 3 years.|||Name a freedom you lost|||No, he doesn%26#039;t want to take advantage of a catastrophe.. he just wants to move us forward in the right direction so that something like this would happen less often, if at all. What%26#039;s so bad about that?





    It IS freedom.. Freedom from oil.





    And name 1 change in the constitution that he has demanded.. I dare you.





    ** He DOES enforce immigration laws. Have you not heard about the 14 year-old shot and killed at the border in Texas? And now we have profiling in the books in Arizona. Not only are they enforcing the law, they are ABUSING it. Now he wants immigration reform. Learn your facts before you spew nonsense like this. **|||Any Republican complaining of a President or VP trying to snatch too much power is being a bit disingenuous. How does it feel?|||This paranoid conspiracy garbage is seriously the best you people have?





    Good luck regaining power.|||You couldn%26#039;t write fiction based on similar tactics. It would be too radical to believe.|||No - please put down the Fox TV hate and fear crack pipe.

    I've changed my Flickr screen name yesterday, now it says 'create new' or 'merge' account. Pics are gone!!

    I changed my Flickr screen name 1 day ago. No problem, i could still log on after the change. But now, AFTER entering name %26amp; password, i MUST choose one of these options: %26quot;Make a new Flickr account%26quot; or %26quot;Merge with an existing Flickr account%26quot;.



    NO information or help whatsoever on the page why these options now pop up, and i got NO %26#039;why%26#039; mail from Flickr - i think Flickr does an appalling job here. Browsing same issue on the net gives no useful answers.



    My pictures are currently GONE. Not one pops up when i search them on flickr. I don%26#039;t believe it%26#039;s about violating terms - i have no nudity, violence, political stuff, etc. content.



    I%26#039;ve send an email to Flickr (no response yet), but it can take weeks before the situation is handled (if i may believe people with same issue).



    WHY do i get these two options (before i can enter my account) after ONLY changing the screen name?



    The options make no sense and i%26#039;ve read users lost their pics choosing either.|||if it is crap why use it, You could go to Pbase.

    As far as I know you should be able to log in under your old name.



    I have now had a pro account for four years with out any trouble and yes I have change my screen name and also set up a new account
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