Have you ever had a court order for visitation for you or for your ex, but things changed like schooling started for the kid%26#039;s, or hours changed, and you two agreed to change the existing time and place and you guy%26#039;s worked it out without the court coming into the situation anymore?|||this is such a wonderful thing to hear of people working for the greater good of the child. people may just be getting the idea and it is so refreshing. of course, you may be the exception to the rule. and i am afraid that you are. but others could sure learn a lesson from you. you could really be setting a good example for a lot of others. my compliments to any and all who are really really putting the child or children first. they didn%26#039;t ask for all the strife they get thrown into.|||Yes, get it in writing and have it notarized! Both of you keep a copy and you can file it with the court at no charge as long as both of you agree.|||That is the ideal. So much better than going to court everytime something comes up that affects your child.
It demonstrates that you are both concerned with your child%26#039;s welfare and willing to make mutual adjustments for his/her happiness/comfort/safety.
It also means you are both willing to drop the animosity and focus on your child.
Good luck and keep up the good work.|||Any way that you can mutually agree to vistiation is preferrable. Going to court just gives your lawyers more money.|||My best friend was given visitation every other week (the kid was going to two different schools because of it) %26amp; he talked things over with his ex because the schools were having issues coordinating things. Now he is in one school, with one parent, for a month %26amp; then next month with the other. They did not bother to get the courts involved because they realized they were, after the divorce, adults %26amp; could talk things out themselves without having to be told what to do like 3 year olds. Things are much easier on both parents %26amp; the are moving on with things, having realized they have matured since the divorce.
Heck, he took her out on a date last night for the first time in 10 years. He usually calls when he gets up from his dates %26amp; I haven%26#039;t heard from him yet.|||My Ex Hub and I ...always change things up, without the courts.
We have an excellent parenting relationship though...And have always (And will always), do what%26#039;s best for our Daughter.|||You do not need the courts involved in every parenting decision the two of you make. Prior to the two of you getting divorced you parented your children, you can still do it now without a judge or lawyers. All you need to do is a written agreement stipulating to the new terms have it notarized and signed by the both of you and keep a copy for record purposes. All to many times people rush to get the courts involved and there really is not any need do what is in the best interest for the children. you cant go wrong there. Good luck|||If uv had to go to court in the past then that would say that uv had problems making %26amp; keeping visitation arrangements.U could change the arrangements %26amp; it could work fine for a while but remember if theres a court order in place for visitation the custodial parent could say if arrangements %26amp; communication broke down that u had been breaking the court order so even though u have or could sort it verbally between u right now it would be better just in case theres any kind of problems or fall out between u later if u went bak to court %26amp; got new visitation rights for ur new circumstances.If ur able to talk with ur ex tell him what u plan in as nice a way as possible.Make an excuse if its easier saying ur worried ul get into trouble for breaking the court order %26amp; so u think its best, just in case of that, to get the order changed.At the same time saying something like u wish it wasnt neccessary but u better just in case,making out ur worried about breaking the law %26amp; not about the arrangement breaking down.If u tell him %26amp; think wot ur going to say u should be able to manage it without upsetting anyone.Good luck.
