When you think about it, romantic love only lasts about 18 months to two years, only because it serves a biological function to bring people together to have sex and perpetuate the species. Attraction is only chemical - a response to pheremones - and there is no way that love between a man and a woman will survive for any long period of time if one of them doesn%26#039;t want to have sex. Then, you may as well be living with any one of your platonic friends.
People get sick of each other and divorce, so whatever was holding them together was only a temporary attraction and not a deep, enduring affection. It was probably lust or what they thought was love but was something else - like panic or settling.
The only people who really stay together are those who need to for financial reasons, those who are too scared to be alone, and those who are too lazy to pack up and change their situation.
You see lots of old married couples. Do you really think that they have a real passion for each other or that they are just resigned to their fate of needing a companion to with whom to share life%26#039;s burdens and with whom to split bills, rather than really knowing that is the one person they want to be with over all others and why.
Even the supposedly unconditional love for a child doesn%26#039;t survive for some people if the parent and child are different enough or have personalities and behaviours that the other one cannot tolerate.
I think love is just a made up scam to perpetuate the human race (who knows why?) and/or to couple up for economic reasons.
Anyone else? Anyone been in what they would call love for a long time? What%26#039;s the difference between love and lust. Isn%26#039;t love really just love with better manners and a hidden agenda?|||you have some good points but i still believe in love|||i love someone no lust in it either. and i really reallyyyyy like him like loveeeee. its about belief and hope that never fails. its out there and very rare. u ussually feel at peace when they r around and u never get sick of them because its not just sex. its that person and love never fades it last forever bro|||Love is a compassion for their mate that can last a life time to make them happy. Mutual sex can last a lifetime too but sex isn%26#039;t everything. Pride for one another helps. Marriage has many reasons to stay together, dedication to one another is a strong bond. Treating each other with respect helps too. Caring about each other is a help too. Just being with your love one can be fun and humor on a daily basis ties the bind even tighter too. Having a good time is paramount to a strong marriage. Selfishness, smugness and insults are the main killer of most marriages. The list goes on but at this time I can%26#039;t think of any more. Oh yes, one more thing children also can solidify the bond between all of the people involved in the marriage. You mentioned money and most couples are concerned that their money may not go far enough and they will try to work things out short of getting the divorce you mentioned. And by the way what%26#039;s wrong with wanting to share your life with someone else? A friend of mine once said that %26#039;sex is the most fun you can have without laughing%26#039;. He%26#039;s right in a way but my wife and I sure do a lot of laughing when we hit the hay. This is it for now!
